Earth hour

On Saturday March 28th, R and me observed Earth hour from 8.30 pm - 9.30 pm. We lit candles and promptly switched off our lights, TV and laptops at 8.30 pm. We then decided to go for a walk. As we walked around the neighborhood I was disappointed to notice that less than 30% of the people had their lights off. TVs were on in many houses. And I wondered as to what the reason behind this could be...
1) It could be ignorance..They had no clue what earth hour was or they didn't know it was on that day...C'mon people it was on Yahoo front page...
2) It could be apathy.. "What can one person do to save the earth"..But frankly each of us is doing our part in damaging it..So why not be part of the solution as well..
3) It could be addiction to electrical, electronic appliances.. Are we so used to all these mind numbing distractions ( TV, computer, music systems..) around us that we would be lost if they were switched off.. Are we worried that once everything is switched off we might actually have to turn around and talk to the person next to us.
4) It could be disbelief in global warming.. Well tell that to the next generations when they ask pointed questions about the earth we left for them.
Whatever be the reason.. If you didn't get a chance to observe it this weekend why not do it one of these days. We could make any hour, any day, Earth hour. Why not use Earth hour as a pretext for a romantic candlelight dinner or a nice brisk walk or just laying on your back enjoying the beauty of the moonlit sky. Sometimes cutting out the surrounding noise (be it electrical or electronic) lets you enjoy the simple things in life.

Your fault or mine

The world is full of many people who take others for a ride just get to some small gain out of it. These people are always using others whether it is to get a job, get money, dump responsibilities or just plain get what they want. Once they have achieved their object, big surprise.... they dump you. I am sure each of us has encountered them and had atleast one incident where after the whole thing you feel cheated and used.
The thing I want to talk about is who's to blame and incidents that follow. The first time around its probably mostly them (People users) and a little bit us (People used). I mean we cannot completely absolve ourselves of fact that we let somebody cheat us. We probably even saw little telltale signs but we let trust in humanity win and continued on our path. I am in no way trying to downplay the creepiness and selfishness of these people by taking some blame on us. But finding a solution always involves recognizing the problem in the first place.
Now for some of us the story ends here.. We learn our lesson albeit the hard way.. We get up, dust ourselves, move on. Next time the person comes around we are guarded, maintain our distance and send them back on their way. But some others fall for it again ( the emotional blackmail, penitence, turning over a new leaf talk and of course pleading for another chance). These people think it is a victory of their faith in humanity and that they are being kindred souls by giving this person (people user) a chance at redemption. But alas once again their trust is betrayed ( most of the times).
I am a big believer of the adage " Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" (this is how the saying really goes Mr. Bush). The second time onwards our responsibility for the incident increases each time. We can claim innocence for the first time (we didn't know any better). The second time we knew better but decided to give a second chance. And then on..we are probably as much a part of the problem as the perpetrator.
The thing about adulthood..people can support, help us as much as we want but we have to stand up for ourselves. Nobody can fight our battles for us...It is our job to do that.

Catharsis

Most of us have this special place where we go to unwind, clear our thoughts and revitalize (essentially catharsis). For many people its someplace where one can be close to nature (parks, beaches, starry nights..) . For others it could be religious places like temples, churches... For me its always been the sea (beaches, oceanfront).


Being from Bombay (a coastal city) , I have always had a great affinity for the sea. Whether I am confused, stressed, harried or whether I am sad, hurt and depressed..Being near a sea always calms me down. I can actually feel the chaos in my mind settling, the plethora of thoughts and questions slipping away. Its like each wave washes away a worry until finally theres nothing but a soothing calm and emptiness left behind. I always walk away rejuvenated, with a new will and strength to face the world. During my engineering days I would always go to worli seaface before exams or whenever to clear my head. When I came to US for grad school I really missed being near a sea. I would long to be able to be near a sea, hear the waves rushing on to the shore or break against the rocks.. Now being half hour an hour away from my favorite beach, California feels like home :)

Curried Pea soup

What better to warm you up on a cold evening than bowl of hot soup... So it was only perfect to make a warm yummy soup for dinner yesterday.


I started with this recipe for curried pea soup from food network and adapted it.
Ingredients:
2 leeks (white and green parts, sliced thinly. Leeks sometimes have mud inside in between their leaflets. So make a slit in the leek which goes almost 3/4th of the length and wash it under running water separating each leaflet)
1 medium onion chopped ( red/yellow.. I used red)
1 capsicum/ green bell pepper chopped ( green is better as it goes with the color scheme..But you can use any color)
1 packet frozen peas ( I guess non lazy people can use fresh peas and shell them)
1 packet veggie broth ( I used trader joe's one. Homemade would be great.)
1 cup milk (optional)
1 bay leaf
1-1 1/2 (as per taste) teaspoon curry powder ( I used madras curry powder)
1 clove of garlic ( optional- as per taste)
1/2 teaspoon ginger paste
11/2 tablespoons Olive oil
Method:
1.Heat olive oil in a pot and add garlic, leeks and onions. Add a little salt and pepper and let it cook for 2 minutes. Add the bell pepper. Let it cook till the vegetable become a little soft.
2.Add the curry powder, mix and let it cook for 2 more minutes.
3. Add the veggie broth, bay leaf, ginger paste and bring to boil on hight heat. Once it boils let it simmer on low heat for a few minutes.
3. Add the frozen peas, salt (as per taste) and let it cook for 10 more minutes. Check the taste at this point and add salt,curry powder (whatever is required).
4. Use the hand blender to puree the soup in the pot (try not to completely puree. Some texture is good). If using the standing blender, do it in batches (blend a small batch. Then add some more and blend. Repeat process).
5. Bring the pureed soup to boil again. Slowly add a cup of hot milk while continuously stirring. Let it remain on the stove at low heat for 5 more minutes (I did not bring it to boil again). The milk adds a certain creaminess. But its completely optional.
I served the soup with fresh warm French bread. Made for a wonderful tasty yet light dinner. R loved the soup so much he even took for lunch :)

Love game

Well, I am not talking about the "he said... she said" that ensues after a relationship is forged between the two people in question. I am talking about the "unsaid" before the dawn of a relationship (the testing waters phase). The things that are left unsaid while trying to achieve the delicate balance between hinting that you "like-like" this person and trying to save face if its one-sided. Having been agony aunt for one-too-many of my friend's love matters, I am only too familiar with this precarious dance. The dance is typically followed by one of the following scenarios..

Scenario 1: Love waves

Both sides are hinting, flirting, spending hours (in person/on phone) with one other. Even more number of hours are spent discussing, analyzing every word and every action of "the person", and then agonizing over the possibility of "a someone else" with friends. The whole world can see that they are both smitten. Finally with lots of support and encouragement from friends, one of them musters the courage to reveal their feelings. Reciprocation = celebrations... and it's a happiness galore. Who doesn't love happy endings?

Scenario 2: Friendship to romance

In a good friendship there is always a chance of romantic feelings. Unfortunately there is also a chance of the feelings being one-sided. In these cases it's best to be quick and honest (bandaid-is, quicker being less painful). Well, of course there will be some pain... heartbreak is never painless. But there are things that hurt more - for instance when the non-reciprocating side says "maybe" cause they didn't want to say "no" and hurt their "friend", thereby giving false hopes. Then the incident is never mentioned again leaving the other person confused. Sometimes being a good friend means making tough choices and having conversations you rather wouldn't.

Scenario 3: Puppy love

A hopelessly and madly-in-love person ensues from the unrequited part of Scenario 1. The person is quite overwhelmed by their feelings and are hopeful someday the feelings will be reciprocated. Some of the madly-in-love people see the light of the day upon intervention by their friends and walk away sadder but saner. Still others refuse to see it even if the message is on a billboard-sized neon sign. It's as if they'd rather not acknowledge it for reasons as varied as being afraid of heartbreak to being scared of never finding love again. However it is probably better to nurse the broken heart and move on, rather than living in denial.

A simple guide to survive any of these scenarios with minimal hurt would be to follow (or at least listen to) what the brain says rather than the heart. Of course, this is easier said than done.